“Warmth and goodwill extended to one person not only make that person happy, but spread the joy to others around, and the chain goes on.” ~Author Unknown
If we can stop and think about what we say, we hold the potential to change the world, or at least OUR own world. Replacing negative words with positive, loving words can make a huge difference in our relationships. It can change the course of our lives as well as those of anyone with whom we come in contact.
Our words are powerful. They create a reaction in the people who hear them, whether the words are directed to them or merely witnessed by them. Genuine encouragement, appreciation, love, acceptance, and affirmation can mend and strengthen. Their opposites debilitate and crush. We can see another person blossom -- or crumple -- depending on the words she or he routinely hears.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will make me go in a corner and cry by myself for hours,” said Eric Idle, English comedian, author, and actor. Words create emotional responses that intensify an individual’s reaction. What may seem like a harmless comment to one person may have such emotion attached for the listener that it chips away at her self-confidence and self-esteem.
Then there are folks like one of the women in my writing club who consistently notices others’ talents and admirable qualities. Liberal with her “thank you’s” and genuine with her praise, she chooses words that validate, and when she speaks them about us and to us, we glow. Her words serve to encourage everyone within listening range.
Let’s make 2014 a year of being conscious about our word choices. Let’s use the power of positive words to build others up and to enhance our relationships and our world.
Sticks and stones may break some bones, but appreciative, affirming words uplift and heal.
~ xoA ~