~ David Wagner, author of Life as a Daymaker; how to change the world by making someone's day ~
DayMaker - any thought, word, or deed that spreads happiness, compassion, or fruitful ideas.
~ Annis Cassells ~
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
When I began The DayMaker, I really had no notion of the blessings that would come my way. Almost daily, dear old and new friends are contacting me. Each comment on the blog site or on facebook, and every email response, reconnects me with friends, some of whom I haven't corresponded or talked with for awhile. Whether the contact results in a lengthy dialog or a quick exchange, I'm delighted to hear from them.
There's nothing like reconnecting. It's not about re-living the past, even though a bit of reminiscing goes on. It's about pulling the threads and tightening up the time-and- distance-worn fabric of our lives. Wrapping ourselves in the warmth of people who've known us is mighty comforting. It's just one blessing from my blog.
Friday, January 14, 2011
- Give up needing to know why the behavior happened; that isn't necessary for forgiveness. Plus, it's rare that knowing why changes how hurt you were then.
- Make a list of what was actually done that caused you pain. This is different from what you felt.
- Think about your part. Did you allow the behavior by not being forthcoming about the hurt you felt? Did you stay when you should or could have left?
- Make a list of all that you gained during the relationship. What positives came out of it? This helps you look at the whole context and see that there was more to the relationship than the bad parts.
- Write a letter to the person where you acknowledge what you gained from the relationship and express forgiveness for the hurts that he caused. There is no need to mail this letter; its value is in getting your feelings out on paper.
- Create a ritual or ceremony in which you get rid of your lists and the letter you wrote. This is symbolic of breaking the link between you and the other person. Personally, I've burned photos and lists on the rocks at the beach at sunset.
- Visualize yourself free from the hold that feeding your grudges had on you. Feel yourself growing lighter and more joyous.
- Move forward without looking back in anger.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
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