Feng Shui and clear-the-clutter books warn against reading while purging. The 18-year old grad school psych note I wrote about de-cluttering resurfaces every now and then. Number two on the list: “Keep going. Don’t stop to READ the papers.” But, that 3x5 card was stuck in another drawer that I needed to empty.
So, I did it. I stopped to read handfuls of torn scraps of paper, saved birthday greetings, faded notes on the backs of business cards, and glossy guarantees for luggage bought long ago.
That’s when I re-discovered a Chinese proverb I’d scribbled onto the back of a list of questions to ask my doctor at the next appointment. The proverb must have struck me when I wrote it down, probably a dozen years ago. Its message strikes me again today.
That the birds of worry and care
Fly about your head,
This you cannot change.
But that they build
Nests in your hair,
This you can prevent.
For sure, there is plenty to worry about in this life: our children (no matter their age); the drought, floods, earthquakes; what’s for dinner; our knees and whether we can keep putting knee replacement surgery off; our friends moving away to be near their grandkids; making it through airport security without a hassle; whether the car will last another year. The list is interminable.
So, the Chinese proverb is right. The worrisome stuff will show up. But we don’t have to let it consume or paralyze us. Especially if it’s something we cannot control. Let it come in, give it a little time, and let it fly away.
Let’s say “no” to over-worrying and say “yes” to ourselves. Allow issues to float away so we can experience the joy and positivity the world has to offer. So we can return to doing some of the things we love to do. We can’t let worries use up today.
What worry might you let go?
~ xoA ~
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