Daymaker - a person who performs acts of kindness with the intention of making the world a better place.
~ David Wagner
, author of Life as a Daymaker; how to change the world by making someone's day ~

DayMaker - any thought, word, or deed that spreads happiness, compassion, or fruitful ideas.
~ Annis Cassells ~

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Wishing You the Best





I subscribe to Mike Dooley’s “Notes from the Universe.” Each weekday, an email appears in my inbox. Often, the message is right on target, applicable to my life, my philosophy, my aspirations. One recent morning, the note I found read as follows:

           “In all things, Annis, always and forever,  simply wish the best for all involved,without stating what you think that is. And, then whatever does happen, no matter what happens, know that it was.”

The note made me think about the times when tough things happened and it turned out that those very trials led to something better -- possibly a better job, a better relationship, a better living situation. Or, if a change wasn’t an immediate improvement, it often opened a gateway for something else to happen that manifested as “the best.”

As parents, we desire the best for our kids. In our relationships, we want the best for our partners, spouses, and friends. As adult children, we would like what’s best for our parents. Sometimes we think we know what that is, and sometimes we don’t. Hey, sometimes we don’t even know what’s best for US, let alone for others. But the key is to trust that the best will come.

I think the hardest part is not stating what we think is “best” for the individual. We often believe we KNOW what is best and want to offer our advice. But the truth is that folks don’t need that from us. They need to make their own discoveries and decide what’s best for themselves, and they need to know we will love and support them when things go awry.

Wishing others the best without attachment to what that best might look like releases us from worry, concern, planning, or responsibility. Sometimes, we just have to wait, reserve judgment, and trust that in any given situation, “the best” will prevail.

May 2013 bring us all the best. Whatever that may be.

 

~ xoA ~




6 comments:

  1. I absolutely agree with you, Annis. And allowing others to have their own "best" will be a life-long journey for me, I think!

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    1. I think that's everyone's journey, Bobbi. You are not alone! Thanks for writing. xoA

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  2. Great post, Annis, and right on target for me right now! I love Mike Dooley's notes and I'm going to his workshop in Zurich in April...so excited! Didn't you go to one? Xoxo

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    1. Don't you love it, Michelle, when something comes along that speaks to you right then? Amina and I thoroughly enjoyed the Mike Dooley workshop we attended a couple of years ago (It was on 10-10-10.)You will love it. Just being in his presence is cool. xoA

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  3. As the mother of a daughter who will graduate from high school in a few months, this couldn't have come at a better time. This is exactly what I need to do for her!

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    1. You just made MY day, Kathleen! Thank you so much. xoA

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